Surprise! Guess who wrote a book? Me, I’m officially an AUTHOR! Girl Yes! The amount of joy in my heart is so over whelming it took me two days to sit down and actually write this post. Honestly, I can’t sit still and per usual my brain in running on jet fuel. I can hardly contain myself. Many of you would be shocked at the fact that writing has never been my strong suit. In fact, in school I was never known as a writer. I focused more on my creative attributes than actual class work. So, to see everything come full circle for me is truly a blessing. I couldn’t have imagined this if you gave me a magical glass ball. If you would have asked me a year ago if I would ever write a book I promise you I would have laughed. I mean laughed HARD.
One thing I’ve learned since starting my blog all those years ago is that writing is very therapeutic for me. It helps me to process my thoughts and emotions as well as maintain a level head. As I mentioned previously, it’s now a part of my creative process. Thus, me writing this book started out as a way to process my own emotions in a positive way. Recently, I have experienced some of the most heart breaking, life changing, spiritual experiences of my life. There was a point where I honestly felt I couldn’t take anymore more of life’s punches.
Have you ever felt like life just hits you so hard at times and you simply can’t breathe? I was completely breathless. It was if as soon as I took a breath I was punched in the gut again, then again, and again. No end in sight. Writing become my solace.
As a woman of faith, I did they only thing I could do, pray. I didn’t want to talk, I was tired of crying, and I needed to be healed. Prayer and my pen was the answer. In this I found my strength, through this I found my purpose. As I processed in my solitude, God told me to be still and write. Truthfully, I had absolutely nothing to say and I felt so empty. I was hanging on by a shred, as a matter of fact I was hanging on by a piece of dental floss. How in the world would I be able to give of myself in this condition? Just a hot mess all around and I couldn’t allow my daughters to see me in this state of duress. That alone was enough motivation for me to want to get it together. My ambition kicked in.
I began to map out a game plan for myself. In 2018 I created Girl Yes as a way to give back to my community. By using my skills and resources, I aspire to motivation the next generation of female leaders. The three key attributes of the Girl Yes model are to be Bold, Ambitious, and Beautiful. Now was the time for me to put all these things into play. I had to manifest the life I always dreamed of and map out the frame work the Girl Yes way. That’s exactly what I did. I created a system to put my life back on track and I am here today to share that action plan with you today. I am proof that shifting your mindset can and will change your life.
This is what Girl Yes; the book is about. A 30-day journal style writing that list all the steps to follow to get back on track while awakening the queen within. This is such a labor of love for me because I was forced to dig deep within myself to uncover my own personal truths, while healing from the wounds of my past. It was a painful yet necessary process, and it has changed me for the better. Now I’m sharing it with you all. Mindset matters! If you want a purpose driven life you have to start by changing your outlook on your present situation and adjusting your vision. Focus on the journey, not the side show attractions.
Please allow me to take this time to say thank you for supporting me over the years and in of my endeavors. I can’t do this without your support and love. I am forever grateful. Since Girl Yes is a community-based initiative, ALL proceeds from the sale of this book go to providing free resources used during our Girl Yes conferences. These conferences are hosted throughout the state of New Jersey and other community-based projects. To purchase you can click HERE or visit the shop tab on the top on this page. I will redirect you to the purchase page on my blog. Again, I cannot thank you enough for the support and I will be listing some of the new and exciting FREE resources Girl Yes has available currently below. These are all available to download and print and can be used over and over.
With love, Chimere Nicole.
Here is a small excerpt from the book, I pray it blesses you the reader as it has blessed me as the writer.
In knowing that I had access to speak life into the countless number of women I encounter daily. I identified a need and recognized there wasn’t a system in place or phrase synonymous to help in combating the types of negative thoughts infiltrating our thoughts. Allow Girl Yes to be that consent affirmation in your life. It was a simple yes that offered me solace in times of self-doubt, heartbreak, and even fear. Girl Yes is a reminder, as we often forget just how strong and powerful we truly are. You should know, you are capable of achieving great things, but you first have to believe that you can. Start believing it by telling yourself YES.
Girl Yes Free Resources
The countdown has begun. In 60 days I will be stepping on stage representing my hometown of Trenton, New Jersey in the Mrs. New Jersey America pageant. It is an extreme honor to represent the city where I was born and raised. Although I am new to pageantry it has been very fulfilling so far. Pageantry has given me the opportunity to dig deep within myself and rediscover who I am as a wife, mother and woman. Today I would like to share a bit of my process with you as I continue on my journey to the Mrs. America stage. Doing my pageant preparation one of the most important things that I wanted to accomplish was to be purposeful in why I wanted to represent New Jersey at next Mrs America.
The first thing that I did was create an action plan outlining all the things that I wanted to accomplish during this process. First, I wanted to accomplish getting my physical and mental health in order. My schedule is quite hectic and like many of you covid-19 has created new challenges in our day today lives. As a mother of two daughters and a small business owner I was forced to close my business temporarily as well as become a teacher homeschooling my children. This shift in my lifestyle so suddenly required me to refocus my attention on two more prevalent things in my life and I needed it to be prepared to do so. I began to write a lot more. Not here on the blog but in my journals. This is very therapeutic for me and helped me clear my head and my heart. Also during this time while facing so much uncertainty my physical health took the biggest hit. I was unable to workout as much as I was used to and the stress of not knowing what was going to happen next caused me to stress eat. Me and my girlfriends have cheerfully given this the name of “The Covid-15”. We have all definitely gained a few pounds however I wanted to get myself back on track and that is what I have begun to do.
The second thing that I wanted to do was have a game plan and outline for my year of service as Mrs. New Jersey. Although I do not have that title yet, I wanted to be able to already have a plan of action in place so that I could hit the ground running. I am an advocate for planning for success and I wanted that to translate into my year of service as a title holder. For many of you who are not familiar with pageantry, we as titleholders are essentially spokespersons for our state. We not only advocate for our respective organizations and platforms but we also are also required to make public appearances as well as promote our pageantry systems. So my goal for my year of service is to be able to accomplish all of those things as well as spread the Girl Yes initiative. I will be discussing that a bit more on the blog at a later date but my platform is the mentorship organization that me and my family started as an intitle Girl Yes.
Lastly, what I wanted to do was use my influence to create change. Now I know that it will take more than one year of service as Mrs. New Jersey to inflict real change but it’s a step in the right direction. I don’t want to take this title just to say that I won a competition. I really want to emphasize that pageantry allows you the platform to be of great influence to a lot of people. My mission is to show women like myself that you are able to rise above your circumstances and achieve great things. You do not have to be a product of your environment and you are also able to manifest and create the life of your dreams. Hard work definitely pays off and that is a testament to the legacy that I would like to leave. So over these next few weeks I will be creating weekly goals and focusing on accomplishing every single one of them. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers knowing that whatever happens was meant to be. I will be sharing some behind the scenes footage of this process here on my blog as well as my YouTube channel so be sure to check back in with me soon for all the fun and exciting updates.
So where have I been? Honestly you guys I have really been in the house doing a lot of revising and reflecting on my business and my personal life. There has been so much change in my life since this pandemic has started and this was the perfect opportunity for me to get some things in order. Since we have been in a pandemic I have been able to not only organize my home but organize my various businesses and personal responsibilities. I have also become a full-time teacher to my two daughters since schools have closed during this time. I reflect back to the times where I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom to homeschool my children. This experience has been eye-opening to say the least. It is a lot harder to homeschool to children of different age ranges and academic ability. I commend teachers and have such a respect for the profession now that I see what it takes to be successful at educating children. Although I have not been active on my personal blog as much as I would have liked, I have been doing a lot of writing and content creating one other various platforms.
As many of you know I am a full-time business owner and hair stylist and so I wanted to be able to fulfill that creative side of me. So, I have been a bit more active on my YouTube platform showcasing various hair tutorials and tips to help my clients and followers maintain healthy hair. I have also been extremely active in the mentorship program that my family started last year called Girl Yes by providing free resources and tools to help in personal development and business growth. What I have learned over the past few weeks is that I am highly motivated by helping other people succeed. By sharing my knowledge on various topics it has called me to my purpose which is to help others. Now I know this may sound very cliche, however my purpose in life has always been to share my knowledge to help people exceed their own expectations and boundaries.
As women we are to shatter the glass ceiling that people put over our heads. My goal is to be limitless in the pursuits that feed my soul. So I have taken this time two of course self-reflect but you also find ways to give of myself that can be used to help others. With that being said I invite you to download some of the free resources that I have been working on during this time. These resources are provided to you for free to help you stay on track with your goals as well as help you organize your thoughts and to change your mindset. Click HERE to get your free daily worksheet. I have so much more in store for my personal brand as well as the mentorship we have started and I hope to be able to share all of the exciting news with you very soon. Make sure you stay up-to-date on all of my posts because I will be rolling out a few new items each week. With love Chimere Nicole.
Dress: ClosetSheIn/Sold Out,
We have some guest on the blog today. My daughters Ariel and Leah, also known on YouTube as The Haskins Sisters. One of the many goals for my daughters is for them to learn and understand how hard I work to provide the lifestyle I was not able to have growing up. With this, they learn work ethic and what it takes to be successful entrepreneurs. So, I decided to give them a formal introduction on how I go from concept to production here on the blog. We sat down and talked about what type of photos we wanted to curate and locations in the area. This was the funniest part because they gave ideas as farfetched as taking pictures at the beach in the winter to driving to Virginia. Neither of these options was ideal for their first photo shoot with mommy. So, we settled for the neighboring town. Although, that trip to Virginia sounds pretty good about now.
Once the location was secure we talked about outfits. Do you know these two asked me for a complete wardrobe including matching lipstick and wigs lol? I can’t make this stuff up. All I could do is laugh because they were really into the concept of a “look”. Additionally, I was not agreeing to wearing a Frozen dress so we kept it simple for today’s look. You can never go wrong with black so that’s what we choose. I must say, I really enjoyed this process with them as it was a way for us to spend quality time together and allow their unique personalities to shine through. The facial expressions they make are hilarious and I realized they are truly just like me. Hope you enjoy todays mommy and me shoot and we will be bringing you more looks in the coming weeks. As long as the school work is complete and their room stays clean. It’s a part of the business deal we contracted lol.
Do you feel like life’s a Ferris wheel? Moving slowing and going in circles. I’ve felt this way before and recently my wheel came to an abrupt stop. The jerk that your body experiences when you stop abruptly leaves your mind swimming with thoughts and makes it hard to think clearly. I felt like I was on the top of the ride, able to see all the beauty of God’s creation. But I was scared to death. I could hear my heart beating in my chest and it was getting louder by the second. I though in that moment I would lose myself, lose it all. Ironically enough as the sun, the ocean, and the beauty of the skyline surrounding me appeared, I started to feel an overwhelming sense of peace. In that moment I was flooded with fear that I would fall and afraid of how high I was. Yet through my tears my fear turned into gratitude. I had to experience fear in order to see and to be appreciate all the beauty surrounding me. It was a complete mind shift. I was released from fear and open to receive all of life’s endless possibilities.
This has been a really trying week for me to say the least. Mentally I’ve been all over the place and I’m trying my best to stay as level headed as humanly possible. But if I’m being honest with myself this week almost broke me down, but God. I really lean on God to help me get through the trails I face and he has never let me down. As my grandmother says, grace and mercy baby grace and mercy. Have you ever experienced something that blindsided you and left you breathless? I think we all have at some point in our lives but the one thing I’ve learned over the years is trails will always come but the way you respond to them is where growth lies. No matter how good of a person you are, how intelligent you are, or how much you pray. You will be faced with a mountain that you will have to move or climb. Since I’m not capable of moving mountains I leave them in God’s hands. I can’t allow what I’m going through to overtake me. I just trust in God that he keeps me in perfect peace and helps me stand strong while in the eye of the storm I’m facing. As in everything this too shall pass. Everything has a time and a season in your life and this is the season of peace for me. I’m claiming it. I will no longer allow anything or anyone to get me off balance and disrupt my peace. If there is one thing I know how to do well that’s to pray. I’ve done a lot of this lately and as a result the smile on my face is genuine. I am truly at peace, with everything.
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Bag: Aldo- Sold Out
Yesterday I stopped by my local Dollar Tree to source some Keto snack options. Sunday night I made the decision to go back to a low carb diet and wanted to give Keto a try. I am familiar with low carb however adding so much fat into my diet was a learning curve I had to get acclimated to. Since eating healthy required you to spend more money on groceries I wanted to find ways to have the occasional treat. Luckily, I was able to find some great options and, in the video, below I will show you everything I purchased in my mini haul. Let me also just say, keto snacks are harder to find then I thought. I was reading all the food labels in the store. Once you realize how much we consume in a single day you become vigilant in checking food labels. I will be sharing more of my health journey here on the blog soon. I am almost one full week into my keto journey an I’m feeling great. Hope you enjoy the video.