So where have I been? Honestly you guys I have really been in the house doing a lot of revising and reflecting on my business and my personal life. There has been so much changing in my life since this pandemic has started and this was the perfect opportunity for me to get some things in order. Since we have been in a pandemic I have been able to not only organize my home but organize my various businesses and personal responsibilities. I have also become a full-time teacher to my two daughters since schools have closed during this time.VIEW POST
We have some guest on the blog today. My daughters Ariel and Leah, also known on YouTube as The Haskins Sisters. One of the many goals for my daughters is for them to learn and understand how hard I work to provide the lifestyle I was not able to have growing up. With this, they learn work ethic and what it takes to be successful entrepreneurs. So, I decided to give them a formal introduction on how I go from concept to production here on the blog. We sat down and talked about what type of photos we wanted to curate and locations in the area. This was the funniest part because they gave ideas as farfetched as taking pictures at the beach in the winter to driving to Virginia. Neither of these options was ideal for their first photo shoot with mommy. So, we settled for the neighboring town. Although, that trip to Virginia sounds pretty good about now.
Once the location was secure we talked about outfits. Do you know these two asked me for a complete wardrobe including matching lipstick and wigs lol? I can’t make this stuff up. All I could do is laugh because they were really into the concept of a “look”. Additionally, I was not agreeing to wearing a Frozen dress so we kept it simple for today’s look. You can never go wrong with black so that’s what we choose. I must say, I really enjoyed this process with them as it was a way for us to spend quality time together and allow their unique personalities to shine through. The facial expressions they make are hilarious and I realized they are truly just like me. Hope you enjoy todays mommy and me shoot and we will be bringing you more looks in the coming weeks. As long as the school work is complete and their room stays clean. It’s a part of the business deal we contracted lol.
Do you feel like life’s a Ferris wheel? Moving slowing and going in circles. I’ve felt this way before and recently my wheel came to an abrupt stop. The jerk that your body experiences when you stop abruptly leaves your mind swimming with thoughts and makes it hard to think clearly. I felt like I was on the top of the ride, able to see all the beauty of God’s creation. But I was scared to death. I could hear my heart beating in my chest and it was getting louder by the second. I though in that moment I would lose myself, lose it all. Ironically enough as the sun, the ocean, and the beauty of the skyline surrounding me appeared, I started to feel an overwhelming sense of peace. In that moment I was flooded with fear that I would fall and afraid of how high I was. Yet through my tears my fear turned into gratitude. I had to experience fear in order to see and to be appreciate all the beauty surrounding me. It was a complete mind shift. I was released from fear and open to receive all of life’s endless possibilities.
This has been a really trying week for me to say the least. Mentally I’ve been all over the place and I’m trying my best to stay as level headed as humanly possible. But if I’m being honest with myself this week almost broke me down, but God. I really lean on God to help me get through the trails I face and he has never let me down. As my grandmother says, grace and mercy baby grace and mercy. Have you ever experienced something that blindsided you and left you breathless? I think we all have at some point in our lives but the one thing I’ve learned over the years is trails will always come but the way you respond to them is where growth lies. No matter how good of a person you are, how intelligent you are, or how much you pray. You will be faced with a mountain that you will have to move or climb. Since I’m not capable of moving mountains I leave them in God’s hands. I can’t allow what I’m going through to overtake me. I just trust in God that he keeps me in perfect peace and helps me stand strong while in the eye of the storm I’m facing. As in everything this too shall pass. Everything has a time and a season in your life and this is the season of peace for me. I’m claiming it. I will no longer allow anything or anyone to get me off balance and disrupt my peace. If there is one thing I know how to do well that’s to pray. I’ve done a lot of this lately and as a result the smile on my face is genuine. I am truly at peace, with everything.
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Bag: Aldo- Sold Out
Yesterday I stopped by my local Dollar Tree to source some Keto snack options. Sunday night I made the decision to go back to a low carb diet and wanted to give Keto a try. I am familiar with low carb however adding so much fat into my diet was a learning curve I had to get acclimated to. Since eating healthy required you to spend more money on groceries I wanted to find ways to have the occasional treat. Luckily, I was able to find some great options and, in the video, below I will show you everything I purchased in my mini haul. Let me also just say, keto snacks are harder to find then I thought. I was reading all the food labels in the store. Once you realize how much we consume in a single day you become vigilant in checking food labels. I will be sharing more of my health journey here on the blog soon. I am almost one full week into my keto journey an I’m feeling great. Hope you enjoy the video.
Recently thought about a saying that people use all the time. “There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs”. When I thought about this, it made me reflect upon one of my recent appearances really made me understand this quote. It deals with an office building that I recently visited. Well maybe not an office building it was more like a rooftop lounge but a building none the less. This building was decorated very beautifully and from the outside looking in you would think it would be very elaborate and ornately decorated inside as well. I came to find out quickly that this was not the case. Once inside I realized that the building was unkept, dusty, and almost run down. I was shocked at the amount of damage done to the interior of this building and even more shocked that they were holding events at this location. The attendant at the front desk told us we would have to take the stairs because the elevators weren’t working. At this point I honestly was not surprised. A bit irritated as I had on high heels and the thought of climbing steps was not appealing. With the interior of the building looking the way that it did, I not expect anything to be working so I was very skeptical of how this event would turn out. Since we aren’t quitters, me and my blogging sisters took the stairs and when I tell you I was tired and exhausted by the time we reached our final destination. I felt like I had run a marathon and I wanted to go back downstairs many times but we decided to see this through.
Once we reached the top floor I was in shock as I was greeted by the most beautiful rooftop lounge I’ve seen in a very long time. I could not believe how stunning this area was. It was the polar opposite the conditions on the inside. I asked the manager later on in the evening why was the building so run down, and his response stunned me. He said, “We focused all of our efforts on the outside because that’s what people can see”. He later went on to say that they were making more improvements on the inside verses the outside however he was aware that the outside appearance is what attracted people to the location. This got me to thinking is this how we operate in the natural? Do we focus on our outer appearance because that’s what people can see in neglect our inner self because we can hide it from view? I am a firm believer that what’s in you will come out. No matter how much you try and mask your imperfections, they have a way of peeking through. Pressure exposures cracks in the foundation as well as create diamonds. So instead of trying to patch up the cracks lets work on building a new foundation. Don’t you think you should present the best version you as possible. Just think, Chimere Nicole 2.0. It takes more time and effort to cover up a blemish then it does to heal it. I’m also looking at myself objectively with trying to see things I mask from others as well as myself. Today I want to share with you what I do to present thr best version of myself each day.
Top Five Daily Habits
- Be honest with yourself, DAILY. You know when you’re not feeling your best. So instead of trying to mask your emotions, face them head on and try to come to a resolution. It may be as easy of a fix as a cup of coffee or reading your favorite book for a few minutes.
- Write and recite a daily affirmation for yourself. If you are dealing with issues of self-esteem or lack thereof. Write something that makes you feel good about yourself and repeat it daily. Example: My smile is one of my favorite features. I have so many other great things about myself I want to fall in love with.
- Spread the love. There have been countless times I felt a hot mess but I decided to make someone feel good about themselves. I do this by giving out complements to complete strangers. You never know how far a kind word or gesture can travel. Be kind.
- Exercise: The benefits are endless. It boosts my mood and helps to get my body geared up for the day. I may whine the entire way to the gym but once I’m there its on.
- Write: I have a little habit of collecting pretty notebooks and pens. I have them everywhere and I utilize them to write out my thoughts, and emotions. It’s a way to positively vent and helps me process my feelings.
My birthday has officially passed and I have been trying to think of what to say as I reflect on my year around the sun. As much as I like to talk I couldn’t find the words to sum up my emotions over the previous year. The first thing that comes to mind is gratefulness. I am just thankful to God for his grace over my life, and how he truly continues to show himself to me. There is something to be said about a driven woman but a woman who allows God to take control is truly powerful. If you know me personally, control freak is an adjective often used to describe my personality. I like to see my vision to come to life and I’m aware God gave it to ME for that very reason. So, it’s hard for me to give up control at times. This year has been filled with prayer and sitting in the driver seat as good spoke the directions to me like Siri. If you would have asked me if I would be doing pageantry last year I would have laughed in your face. Better yet, read my blog post from last year. My mind was focused on so many other things, but like I said. When God is in the driver seat you can go further than you could driving alone.
If you knew my story and all that I’ve overcome you would understand why I where my Trenton sash proudly. Of all the people in my city I was called to shine a light. The bible says many are called FEW are chosen. Trust me when I say this was not my doing and nowhere near the road I thought I would take but this is the journey I’m on. Me of all people, right? But let tell you something. This woman is an OVERCOMER. The one that was over looked and counted out. The woman who faced failure, poverty, and every static that said I would never make it out. I am the definition of a true queen, PERIOD. So, as I proudly wear my Next Level crown as I advocate for reaching new heights. Becoming better than you were before and being unapologetic in who you are. I am in no way perfect, I will continue to learn and grow and that’s why I affirm my queenship. The crown I wear is often invisible although I have a very pretty one now. I walk with my head held high knowing I speak for woman who may not have a voice. And as I continue to grow I pledge to take the young woman of #GirlYes with me. Today I celebrate the victories, big and small. Today I dedicate myself to serve. Today, I am filled with gratitude. This is year 35, let’s start things off with a bang.
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Birthday week continued here in the event you haven’t noticed by my social media, I make my birthday a week-long celebration. So, it occurred to me while driving home that I really never thought about what I would tell my younger self. The concept isn’t anything profound I just always thought if there was something for me to know it would be revealed. I’m really simplistic in my thinking at times. Nevertheless, as I thought about the one thing I would tell my younger self the only thing I could honestly say that may have made the biggest impact on my life is to not worry why I never seemed to fit in. Now this may come as a shock to many as I was very popular in school and my early twenties. I sang, ran track, was a varsity cheerleader and was just as silly as I am now. Did I mention I love to dance so the club scene was my favorite location? Although I never had any issues I never really felt I was living to my true potential because no one who was in my inner circle was there to challenge me. I natural excelled so that was good enough for many, but never for me. On the outside I always had plenty of friends, was happy, but I never felt I was living in my purpose.
I didn’t challenge myself and so I never felt the spaces I was in was the right fit for me. They didn’t fit and I settled in order to belong. I could never understand why I choose to do the bare minimum thus this allowed me to still be deemed smart, and popular. That just goes to show you that what others think about you is not a true reflection of who you are and what you can become. The takeaway from this is to never settle, in all areas of your life aim to excel. My motto is, be more than a pretty face. The scripture that I hold dear is Proverbs 31:30. In simple terms it reads, “Charm is deceiving, and beauty fades; but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised. The things we hold dear like looks, body types, and titles, they all fade away. What you have left, underneath the layers of foundation and hair extensions is what matters most. That is my number one focus now. Making sure I am the best Chimere I can be and helping others do the same.