Chasing failure? What’s exactly does this mean? Why is failure looked upon with such a negative connotation? I don’t really have the answer to these questions but I’ll share my experiences with you all in hopes that it will help you view failure differently. I write this post with such a weight lifted off my shoulders. I truly feel liberated. For 13 weeks, I have been working extremely hard finishing a goal of mine that I’ve had for the last three years. While I’m finishing one goal I’ve discovered many more goals I would like to accomplish. Today I want to talk to you about chasing failure. We think of failure as a life altering event that’s changes the way the world orbits the sun or as this monumental event that’s causes the world as we know it to cease. Today I learned that’s failure is so much more than that, failure is the beginning of a new opportunity. Failure isn’t a means to an end it’s a catalyst for a new beginning.
Finally, back from my mini vacation and boy did I need it.
I have been under so much stress lately it’s not even funny. Crazy thing about life is your thrown unexpected challenges at times when you think you can’t take anymore. God really has a great sense of humor in that way. Recently, I took a mini vacation to South Beach Miami. It was a short weekend getaway but it was well needed. I really needed to gain a sense of perspective and peace of mind. My mind has been crowded with a never ending todo list and responsibilities. At times, I was feeling very overwhelmed and just worn out. I really needed the time to clear my mind and process my thoughts. That’s exactly what I did this past weekend. It’s amazing what a little time away can do for your mental stability. VIEW POST
Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been trying to get some things in my personal life in order. As some of you may know I am currently enrolled in college finishing my business degree. I am also juggling running my business and of course sharing with you here on my blog. So, with so much on my plate I have been feeling a little rundown lately. And for me as a mother to function properly I need it to reprioritize my life. One of the things that I really wanted to tackle is my sleep habits. I’m currently getting between 3 to 5 hours of sleep each night. This is not good for my health and I’m also noticing that my body is starting to be affected by the lack of sleep. I also wanted to tackle my little coffee addiction. Since starting college I’ve been drinking coffee more regularly than I would like. And of course, when I get coffee it’s extra sweet with different types of creamer and full of sugar. This too is also taking a toll on my body. Lastly, I have not been able to exercise and I definitely have not been eating properly. VIEW POST
Give up on a dream, or float away on a fantasy?
No, keep your feet firmly planted in reality and stand tall.
Eyes above the clouds just as a reminder, as to what your dreams are !
Rome E. Rome
The past couple of days have been a complete whirlwind for me. It’s funny how life can take such a drastic turn in such a short amount of time. As we all know by now life is filled with ups and downs and somethings are beyond our control. I’m the first to admit I’m truly amazed by some of the recent events in my life. Like I share with you on my social media platforms, my life may seem glamorous and amazing at times because of the opportunities I’m afforded but I am just like anyone else. I have day’s when I can’t catch a break and I just want to scream and pull my hair out. Or day’s when life’s struggles get the best of me and I shed a few tears. Lately I’ve had a few dealings with a different type of life experience, trouble. Life has a funny little way of sneaking up on you and before you know it you’re in consumed by it. You’re never fully aware of how much mayhem trouble can bring to your life but sometimes we have to look at trouble from a different perspective and welcome it. It has it’s ways of revealing your weaknesses as well as your strengths. So when I tell you these past couple of days has been a complete eye opener for me I don’t say that lightly.
One thing I’ve come to realize as an adult is somethings are in inevitable. There are seasons in your life that you must go through and there’s no way of avoiding it. Trouble being one of them. For most of us it’s during our high school and college years when were trying to find ourselves. For others it comes much later in life. As adults we will be faced with troubles on many levels. Some life changing while others not so much but trouble nonetheless. Today’s post I want to talk about embracing trouble. Typically we look at trouble negatively, but there is another viewpoint we should examine. I’ve come to know that trouble can bring some of my life’s greatest pleasures and rewards. When we are consumed with fear or grief we can only think of trouble as a means to the end. What I want you to ponder on is how in the face of trouble, you have the opportunity to become better than you were before. Diamonds are make from pressure and glass is shaped and molded in the fire. Pressure and fire are different forms of life’s troubles. Each with different levels of intensity. In my life I’ve dealt with things that I thought would genuinely shatter me. I now realize I preform at my best in times of trouble. I was made in the fire! It didn’t feel great at that exact moment however, it has shaped me into the woman I am today. That’s one of the many reasons why I do what I do. Yes I have a passion for this and I love to share ideas and concepts with other creatives but the things I want to share with world can’t be found in a 5 minute hair or makeup tutorial. It’s much deeper than that for me.
Trouble Can Be A Motivating Factor
Take a cookie for example. When we were children there was always that cookie jar on the kitchen countertop that we wanted but we knew if we reached for that cookie before dinner we would get in trouble. The fear of getting into trouble didn’t eliminate the desire to want the cookie. If anything the desire for the cookie intensified even more knowing that trouble was around the corner if caught. It became a motivating factor. Trouble motivated me not to get caught with my hand in the cookie jar. The irony of that statement…. Fortunate enough for me I never got caught or my mother didn’t care as much as she let on. Nevertheless, I’ve always tired my best to stay out of trouble but it seems as though trouble lately has caught up with me. The difference between now and then is that I’m learning to embrace the troubles as a form of growth and not look at is as a form of opposition. I’m using my troubles as a motivating factor as well as well as a learning tool. You’d be surprised what kind of knowledge your troubles can bring… Below I’m sharing some ways to help you deal with trouble in a healthy way.
Ways Of Dealing With Trouble Effectually:
- Smile! I know this is easier said then done. But in my darkest days me plastering, yes plastering a smile on my face helped change the atmosphere around me and hence it changed my emotional state.
- Be expressive! If you need to scream, scream. If you need to cry, do that also. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to bottle your emotions inside and try to hide them. You are setting yourself up for failure. I am a huge fan of musical therapy. That’s essentially turning on the music and dancing till I’m tired and I’ve danced myself happy again. Twerking heals all…
- Write. For me this helps tremendously. It helps to clear my head and in the times when I’m not able to be expressive it helps to calm my nerves and give me clarity on the situation I’m presented with.
- Address it head on. Most problems have a simple solution and we don’t see that because we are so worried about all the possible outcomes. Tackle the issue like a football player, head down with shoulder pads up.
- Last but not least, prayer! I would not be Chimere without prayer, period. It has gotten me through some dark, dark, days. I should write a book…. Once you tap into the power of prayer your life will never be the same.
In short, the thing I want you to take away is you can’t always control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it. Your reaction plays a pivotal role in the final solution to your problem. Never stop dreaming, believing, or pushing yourself to better then you were yesterday. You never know, the problems your troubles may causes may make room for something beyond you comprehension.
2 and 2 are 4.
4 and 4 are 8.
But what would happen
If the last 4 was late?
And how would it be
If one 2 was me?
Or if the first 4 was you
Divided by 2?
The holidays are fast approaching and let’s just say I haven’t done an ounce of holiday shopping. I know, I know I have literally a couple of days left but in my defense I’m a busy woman. I recently launched my hair care line and it has been a busy couple of weeks. It’s almost the equivalent of giving birth in the sense that you’ll need time to recover and heal, yet you still have a infant to take care of night and day. However, there’s no recovery time, just hard work and more work. Don’t get me wrong I love every second of it but I know a vacation is much needed in the near future.
Today I want to give you a few tips on how to change your mindset in preparation for the New Year. This holiday season I decided to take some time to do a little self reflection. With so much on my plate I often times forget to sit down and appreciate where I am in my life and celebrate the small victories. This time of year has become a little more challenging for me since the loss of a loved one and it really helps me to take a few minutes, grab a cup of coffee, and take a mini stroll around town. Walking and window shopping helps me relieve stress and also allows me a few moments of a reprieve. Actual shopping also helps but I’ve been trying to do better in that department. Not sure how long that will last but I’ll remain optimistic.
Stepping Out On Faith
I am a naturally head strong woman, I set a goal and it’s tunnel vision until completion. As such, I am very hard on my self to accomplish whatever it is I set my mind to. This takes FAITH, having complete confidence in something you can’t see yet. Often times it’s hard to imagine something tangible when it’s in the vision stages. That business your dreaming about, or that job you want to apply for. It takes an act of faith. It’s not always easy to step out on faith and do new things but I challenge you to think about all of the goals and ideas you have and make it a plan to accomplish them. Trust me when I tell you it’s easier said then done but I can promise you it will be worth the time and effort. One thing you have to be aware of is self doubt. It will creep on you when you least expect it and you have to be prepared. This year I incorporated weekly to do list and daily reminders and this has helped me tremendously. Put that smart phone to use and set up daily alerts to keep you on track.
Don’t Be Afraid Of Failure
This is key to accomplishing any goal. People stay in the same place day after day, year after year because they are afraid of failing. Why? What’t the worse that can actually happen? Will you starve, will you die? I think not! You can only fail if you give up on your self and any opportunity you waste out of fear. Learn to eliminate the standard of success other people set for themselves and measure your success according. Failure is just success you gave up on to soon. I love social media just like the next person but one thing I despise is the way it measures success and popularity. I will never value myself or my business by the amount of followers I have. One thing I know to be true, I have twice as many people watching me then following me on social media. I would rather focus on offering something of value for them to follow and learn from than posting something with no context. Failure is just not a option.
Share The Love
This holiday season while you’re surrounded by friends and family I challenge you share more then tangible gifts. Share your thoughts and ideas, share your visions and dreams. Take the time to create lasting memories for others as well as yourself. Reflect on this past year and find ways to make next year even better. What you do today will effect your tomorrow and it’s never to early to get a leg up on 2017. Sending my love to you and yours this holiday season, XO.
Pants: Charlotte Russe
Boots: Kenneth Cole
Photo Credit: @Jinforthewin_fit
Today’s post is a exciting one and I have been waiting a long time to share this news with you all. I have finally released my own haircare products. Chimere Nicole Beauty hair care is a range of essential oils and hair butters that will nourish, condition, and repair the hair for the healthiest hair imaginable. If you are struggling with brittle, dry, limp hair this hair care line was designed with you in mind. I will be giving you a overview of the new products and I encourage you to visit the site for more information, ChimereNicoleBeauty.com
At Chimere Nicole Beauty we do more than just listen. We create! You told us that you want salon quality products with all natural, organic ingredients to nourish, protect and grow your hair. This is why we are pleased to introduce four new products designed for and inspired by you.
Whether you are looking for shine, hydration, growth, or repair Chimere Nicole Beauty has created a product just for you.
You want to look your best every day and part of that is having hair that shines. Chimere Nicole Beauty Shine Mist uses aloe vera to protect and nourish your hair, leaving it with a lustrous shine. Vitamins A and E offer added nourishment and protection for your hair.
Hydration is also an important factor for healthy hair. Chimere Nicole Beauty Hydration Oil contains Argan oil, Apricot oil and Rose hip oil. This blend of oils contains vitamins that protect and strengthen your hair. This lightweight oil moisturizes and protects. It is great for everyday use and makes a perfect protective styling aid for braids or extensions.
Many of our family, friends and clients struggle to with hair growth. That is why we created Chimere Nicole Beauty Growth Stimulating Oil. This is a blend of natural oils and essential oils designed to nourish your scalp and stimulate hair growth. This product uses grape seed, Abyssinia and peppermint oils to nourish your scalp, improve circulation, and promote hair growth.
Heat, styling, and washing can take its toll on your hair, leaving it dry and damaged. Damage Repair Butter moisturizes and repairs your hair. Natural oils and vitamins protect and nourish your hair. Damage Repair Butter is great for dry hair and split ends or apply to your hair before styling as a heat protectant.
To learn more and try these products for yourself, visit ChimereNicoleBeauty.com today and join our mailing list. I also have a detailed video on my YouTube channel explaining how each product works as well as how I use each product to regrow my hair.
Recently I went to my social media and asked you what questions you would like me to answer in my latest Youtube video. I asked you via my SnapChat what questions you wanted me to answer for my “Get To Know Me Tag” video. The questions you all submitted where awesome in regards to getting to a little more about me. Some of the answers to the questions where quite funny and I really enjoyed sharing a little bit more about my self outside of writing and showing visuals here on the site. Below I listed the questions you all asked and I will be answering each question in my latest YouTube video also listed below.
Get To Know Me Tag Questions:
- What dress are you wear?
- Have I ever been in love?
- Have I ever had a terrible breakup?
- How tall are you?
- How much do you weigh?
- What’s my favorite TV show?
- Favorite color?
- The reason I joined YouTube?
- Why did I change my YouTube channel name?
- Title of the last book I read?
- What instruments do I play?
- Last time I hung out with anyone?
- What are your turn off’s?
- Loud music or soft music?
- Zodiac sign?
- How long have I been a cosmetologist?
- How how have I owned my business?
- When are your haircare products be available?
- Favorite candy?
- Am I Nigerian?
- What music do you like to listen to, and favorite artist?
- How did you know you wanted to be a stylist?
- Do you have any regrets?
- One place in the world I wish I could go?
- Favorite brand of Crochet hair?
As you can see I answered quite a bit of questions but it was awesome to sit down and just talk to you guys. I can’t wait to share more of this style video with you as it was really to see what questions everyone came up with. If you have any additional questions for me that I didn’t answer submit them below.
This has got to be one of the hardest days for me as a mother. I know some people may read this post and think I’ve lost my ever loving mind but it just got REAL in my household. My baby is starting school today! Now again, it may not be a huge deal to some but I am VERY over protective of my children. I don’t let them out of my sight, so the thought of my baby going to school for 8 hours, with strangers, and I don’t know what’s she’s doing freaks me out. I mean yesterday I had a total melt down in Target buying school supplies. I mean tears, people staring, and Ariel asking me why I’m sad about her going to school. I just can’t wrap my mind out all this change. This can’t be happening, right? I feel like one minute I felt her kicking me in my tummy, then next she’s walking. Now it’s school, LORD send help. I can’t believe the time has come and now I have to learn to let go. I’m having a total melt down and I need some chocolate, and maybe even a sedative. My nerves are shot. Breathe Chimere, BREATHE!
Just a little history, so you know where I’m coming from. Ariel for me is not only my first born, she apart of my testimony. Before I conceived her I was told by my physicians I would have to wait a year or maybe more before I even considered trying to conceive a child. The news was shocking and heart breaking considering what I had already gone through at the time and I wasn’t sure I would be able to be a mother. I prayed, cried, and prayed again. I just wanted the option to have children. So imagine my surprise when six months later I find out I’m pregnant! You want to talk about a blessing. I truly believe that was the happiest moment of my entire life. I never felt joy and peace so deep in my soul. I mean total bliss. See, Ariel in a sense was my miracle baby. She proved to me that God always has the final say and no matter what you go through God is God alone.When man says no, God says YES! I learned to trust God in that situation and I was rewarded with something greater than I could ever imagine, Ariel.
Now she’s trying to leave me to go to get an education! (OK, I know that was a bit dramatic but you get the idea).
But today I am growing as a mother by allowing God to show me who he is again. I’m learning to trust things outside my level of control. If you know me personally you know I am the ultimate control freak. However, today I learning to let go! I want my baby to sore, and grow. Spread her wings and begin to learn to fly. It’s not always easy to remove your hand from a situation but sometimes letting go is the best option you have. I’m learning today that letting go may be extremely hard for me but it’s the best decision for my baby. Lucky, I still have a little home with me and she’s stuck to my like eyelash glue. Meaning, she picks and chooses when she wants to cooperate. She’s shady sometimes lol. As for Ariel, it’s time for my baby to begin a new chapter in her life. It’s time for her to sore and be great! I won’t let her go to far tho, just far enough to make it to kindergarten. Then we will revisit this whole school thing next year!